048 Sharna O’Sullivan: Near Death & Finding Presence

Sharna’s message is one of wholeness. A reclamation of self. An occupation of space. She wishes to share that it all takes to truly be HERE is a moment. Then another. And there are practical steps that can be taken to bring that Presence and space into your life.

Sharna is a weaver of stories. Stories of space, presence, awareness. Stories of the Whole self – present self, past life selves, ancestral self. We draw from all the patterns around us. And it is within this acknowledgement that we find ourselves, come to know ourselves, accept ourselves. Sharna is a realist, a pursuer of deep connection, a lover of the vast Universe and daughter of the Goddess Consciousness. She mentors women to create the space to discover a life beyond the stresses, anxieties and pressures of life.

What we talked about: 

  • All Sharna’s life, she had pushed through obstacles to reach her goals. She pushed through everything in life, as a coping mechanism
  • She approached the impending birth of her baby boy Daire the same way
  • She’d had c-sections with her previous births. She felt this was an indication of an emotional or spiritual block that needed to be healed, which she was determined to discover and overcome
  • An emergency c-section for Daire eventuated, despite all Sharna’s work to avoid it
  • Complications from surgery resulted in a Near Death Experience
  • Sharna described the sense of calm, peace and expansion she experienced before and during this experience
  • Her reasons for choosing to return to this life
  • PTSD and the adjustment period that followed reintegrating into her life in this physical realm
  • Turning points in putting her life back together and overcoming anxiety
  • Simple techniques she has learned to focus on a single task and be present
  • Understanding, acknowledging and integrating the present self, past life self and ancestral self. 
  • How to find clues to who you really are and your purpose

If I could go back and tell myself one thing, it would be just to take and do one thing at a time. In those stressed and frazzled times, there is space to breath for just a moment and have a look at what I can do, one thing at a time. Bringing everything back to one thing at a time. Even to the the point of one thought at a time. 

 Sharna can be found on Facebook here

Sharna has a membership ‘Moment by Moment’ which is run as a circle. You can private message Sharna via her Facebook page to enquire about the availability of spaces. 

 Sharna’s website can be found here

 

047 Dr. Ricci-Jane Adams: Sacred Leadership

WIn this episode I’m in conversation with Dr. Ricci-Jane Adams, principal of the Institute for Intuitive Intelligence. She teaches women all around the world to qualify as clinically trained intuitive guides. Ricci-Jane supports her students to increase their power to serve by activating the archetypal energy of the priestess, mystic and leader within each woman she works with. Ultimately, Ricci-Jane’s work reminds these incredible women that they are infinite, unlimited, non-local God/dess consciousness.

I trained with the Institute of Intuitive Intelligence as and Intuitive Guide and recently completed the Higher Power course. 

We talked about:

  • What sacred leadership is
  • Embracing that you are leader if you’re on a spiritual path
  • The difference between leadership and patriarchal / hierarchical power
  • Why guru culture must end
  • The importance of looking at other’s behaviour symbolically or archetypically, so we don’t take it personally
  • The formula for Sacred Leadership: humility, grace and power
  • How we need to meet our fear to evolve

Ricci-Jane says

Sacred leadership is the fullest expression of what you are, which is God. Know thyself and you will know you are god. 

As a leader you magnetize people towards you positively or negatively because you’re doing something outside the ordinary.

The first step is humility. If you accept praise as though you did anything, you have fallen into the first trap. Humility is knowing this is God moving through you.  You are the humble servant. People want to believe you have something special so they don’t have to be the special magic for themselves. 

The ultimate truth is that there is only one of us here. If I deny the truth of who I am, I am denying it for everybody. 

Links: 

To find out more about the Institute of Intuitive Intelligence, click here

For the Higher Power:  A New Formula For Spiritual Leadership course click here

For details of the Initiate Program Ireland Tour click here

Ricci-Jane’s website is here

And you can find her on Facebook here

 

046 Meg Berryman: You are a social leader

In this podcast we chat to Meg Berryman and talk all things regarding Social Sacred Leadership. 

Meg’s message is that we are already social leaders and change makers in our families, our workplaces and our communities. 

She loves to inspire others to step into leadership.  She demonstrates how to cultivate a vision that inspired purpose in the everyday contributes not only to our own vitality and wellbeing, but to a kinder, more sustainable and equitable future for all.

We talked about: 

  • What is leadership?
  • What are the blocks women have around leadership?
  • The idea that our energy causes change in the world
  • How Meg spent 15 years trying to effect change through her actions alone
  • How a breakdown and healing process lead to understanding social change on a deeper, more holistic level
  • The importance of understanding that we are always causing an effect
  • The significance of looking in the shadows. Of sitting with the discomfort, in order to heal, grow and shift energy
  • The importance of having difficult conversations
  • The need to do Inner work and how it leads to a ripple effect of outer change
  • How to do the inner work, remove the blocks and take inspired action

Meg’s message is

An invitation. There comes a time when we really need to, as a species, as sisters, lovingly help each other to step into action.

There are enormous injustices happening in the world.  You are not responsible for changing all of them. However, if there is one issue, one focus, one thing behind you could bring your intentionality, wisdom and resources to, that really feels like it’s in alignment with you and your experiences, my invitation is to think about taking action. 

Meg’s Leadership Course is ‘Lead(her) – Self Empowerment for Social Leadership’, which you can find on her website http://megberryman.com 

Her Instagram is https://www.instagram.com/megjberryman/

Facebook page is: https://www.facebook.com/megjberryman/

 

045 Gita Gopalan: Listening to yourself first

I am absolutely delighted and honoured to be joined in this podcast by the one and only Gita Gopalan. We had a really juicy deep dive conversation exploring her heritage, her culture and who she is.

Gita is a Senior Executive Search Researcher through her own consultancy business. She has a Graduate Certificate in Philanthropy and Not For Profits. She’s also a Reiki Practitioner and an Intuitive Guide. 

Gita is on a mission to share with professional men and women how to marry their intuition into their daily lives, and live a life on purpose. 

We talked about:

  • The importance of honouring one’s self first
  • Having ties with multiple countries and navigating finding one’s home
  • Trusting your own heart and judgement over other people’s opinions
  • The importance of education for women
  • Her support of the organisation ‘Room to Read
  • Bringing Capitalism, Not For Profit Philanthropy and living on purpose together

 On living a fearlessly, Gita says we can achieve this 

By listening to oneself. It’s normal to seek advice and opinions. However, I have always listened to myself. I’ve also had the courage. I created a very different life and it is one I love and cherish and that I’m very grateful for

 Links:

 For more information on Room to Read click here 

 For more about the Institute for Intuitive Intelligence click here 

 Gita’s business website is here 

 Link to Gita Gopalan’s article for the Spiritually Fierce Magazine is here 

 

044 Carlie Maree: Soul Modes

Hello and welcome to this episode of the Spirited Sisters Podcast.  I am beyond excited to be joined today by the one and only Carlie Maree. Carlie is a dear friend and a woman whose work I have dived into since meeting her on retreat. And we’re also in a Mastermind together.

She has a capacity to take complex information and teach it in a way that is truly understandable. Her drive and devotion to helping women make a difference in the world is impeccable. She’s building an incredible community of dynamic and powerful women.  Through this she has created Soul Modes, a framework which is really enhancing that community’s capacity to show up, to make a difference and to be all of themselves.

Carlie is curious.  She’s inquisitive. She asks absolutely incredible questions.  I am so honoured to have her as a guest today.

Carlie, how did you come to understand that we are not one ordinary woman but we are four extraordinary women?

Soul Modes is a lifelong research project that I’m a couple of years into playing with. Around 2 years ago, the life plan had I created, that is, to get the husband, the 2 and a half kids, the white picket fence, that dream life I thought I was building was ripped out from underneath me. My marriage broke down and I was not okay.

I’d spent a lot of time in my marriage thinking I was crazy. I was always up and down. I felt like I was always a bit all over the place and on an emotional roller coaster. I knew my husband found me a challenge to deal with as a result. I was trying to fix my marriage and I was convinced I was a bit broken.

Through the healing process I read lots of personal development books and tried to figure myself out. I started trying to figure out when I felt good and when I didn’t and what was going on. I started tracking the moon, learning about lunar cycles, working with crystals, trying meditation and different healers.

I learned about this idea that we cycle through 4 different phases through our menstrual cycle. So I tried tracking the moon and the menstrual cycle and I tried to figure out my pattern. I tried to track my motivation and mood to see if I could ‘hack’ it. I found that nothing was working for me.

One day in a meditation I had a very clear voice come to me and say, ‘There is nothing wrong with you.’ So I decided to stop looking outwards and I started looking in.

I started journaling each day and figuring out what I needed and I found there was a really clear pattern. Four modes. I gave them 4 nicknames.

I realised my moods happened exactly in the same order. I started talking about it. I started finding it was happening to others! And Soul Modes was born!

When I first heard this I was skeptical. I track the moon and menstrual cycle. It pushed my buttons as it seemed contrary to that. But I have become a passionate convert. Can you give us an overview?

The Four modes together I call a ‘Soul Cycle’. The four modes that make up the Soul Cycle I call the Soul Modes.  They are Wild Mode, Bear Mode, Super Mode and Sparkle Mode.

It’s like at any time we have all four women inside us, but only one of them is driving, the others take back seats so that she (the ‘driver’) can get what she needs.

We often talk about having to ‘fill our cup’. We don’t just have one. We have four cups. This approach is a radical take on self care.

In each mode there’s a deep yearning. When that yearning gets filled, we shift into the next mode.  If you pay attention and track this, you’re going to speed this thing up. So your output will increase, your motivation and growth massively explode. It’s indescribably powerful.

So can you explain the four modes? The four woman inside us?

WILD

She’s my favourite. She’s a wild woman. She wants to make changes. She’s the CEO of your life. She decides what needs to change for you to move forward to the next level version of you, so that you can grow.

That can come out as frustration at the lack of progress. The whispers in the back of your mind of discontent become intolerable. This is when you might need to declutter, kick start your fitness and diet for example.

It’s unimaginable for your wild woman that you don’t already have the life that deep down in your soul you know you’re supposed to have.

But if you don’t know you’re in wild mode, you might just start tearing the house apart and get cranky with everybody.

You need to find an outlet for her. Like cleaning out a cupboard. Art. Writing. Journalling. Shopping.

BEAR MODE

The plunge into bear mode can feel challenging, particularly if you’ve had an intense Wild Mode. The motivation to make changes drops and it becomes a sense of stillness. Some of the underlying thought patterns and limiting beliefs/inner critic stuff comes to the surface.

This is the time where you can feel in a slump, unmotivated, and question your abilities.

Bear mode is like when you have a dripping tap in your house that you’re not aware of until the noise stops and it’s quiet enough to hear. It’s the time you realise what needs attention to be fixed.

It’s the time you can address the underlying things that are happening that are stopping you from achieving what your wild woman wants to do.

If you have ambitions in wild mode, then in bear mode all your self doubt about achieving that comes up.

If you know this, it’s powerful, because you have the opportunity to deal with that. To journal through that or meditate on it. To bust some fears.

Sometimes what you need in bear mode is a rest and a nap.

SUPER MODE

This is when you feel, ‘I can do everything! In fact I will right now! Let me write a list!’.  This is when you decide to get a wall planner, a diary, create a meal plan and take action.

It has a masculine vibe. It’s a time you can get frustrated with people not keeping up with your pace.

Your Inner super human craves tangible results. She wants to get shit done. She wants to write a list and tick stuff off.

Fluffing around and meditating is hard at this time.

If you run a business, you’ll probably get most of your week’s work done in this mode.

SPARKLE MODE

Sparkle Mode is beautiful. If we were in Super Mode all the time, the people around us would probably feel neglected, because we are focused on our work and wanting to get things done.

Sparkle mode is like we’re a sparkly fairy. Very nurturing. Quite feminine. It’s a motherly energy.

Your inner Sparkly Fairy craves connection. When we crave connection and want to be very present, this is sparkle. Want to make love. We want to cuddle our babies.

The challenge is we have no focus whatsoever. I have always been in Sparkle Mode when I drop my laptop or ding the car when parking.

We need to find ways to keep ourselves on track.

How do you recommend we track our modes?

Ask yourself, ‘What do I feel like doing today?’. Do you feel like snuggling with your babies or doing a big keynote talk? Take note of what you are craving.

Also, share this with the women around you. Often they can reflect back to you where you are at.

It can be challenging to pick what mode you’re in right now, because you think, ‘I’m always like this!’. So note down what you are craving, and then notice how it changes.

It’s easier to spot the pattern than it is to spot the mode you’re in right now. You can begin to notice the contrast between modes.

Soul Modes for Motivation and Self Care

As women we can work with knowing there is meaning to our modes and that we can work with them.

Your Wild woman is the CEO. She wants to get you to where you want to be. Your next level version of you.

Bear Mode is board of directors. Their job is to lock themselves away in a room and have a look at what the CEO wants and then look at the risks and check whether it’s right and in line with our values.

Being in tune with your Soul Modes means you can understand how to fill your cup. The quicker you fill you cup, the quicker you cycle through your Soul Modes.  If you put drips of water into a cup, it’s going to take a lot longer to fill. The more you fill your cup, the quicker you can move on.

With the women I’ve studied, in the beginning each mode generally takes 4-5 days. Once they have become aware and have taken care of themselves accordingly, it generally has gone down to around 2 days.

Not wanting to get out of bed does not necessarily mean depression. Sometimes it’s just self care and it will pass. You can just surrender to it. The more you surrender, the more Super you can be on the other side.

My advice is to let each woman, each mode, do their job.

Soul Modes and Business

WILD MODE

Ask what the next level version of me would do next. It’s great for creating Ideas for great content and courses.

Ask who will I need to be (to be my desired future self)? How does she dress like? How does she spend her days? How can I do that now?

She’s you from your future and she’s come back, looking around saying, ‘Nah! This has to change! That has to change!’. She’s all about big vision stuff.

Is she is wanting to make irreversible changes, I run it through all 4 modes first!

BEAR MODE

If you can, take time off. The more you take care of yourself, the more you are taken care of. Post pre-prepared quote cards for when you don’t feel like doing social media. Work through your negative thoughts. It’s time to see them, face them, release them and let them go. Time for a shower cry. It might not look productive, but it can be the most important work.

At this time, I work in bed, in my pyjamas with a cup of tea.

SUPER MODE

This is a masculine energy. Super is Head of Operations. She gets things done. It’s time to write a list, a spreadsheet, work through actions. It’s a great time for going through emails, doing admin, creating content. Live streaming content. Let her take care of all that. It feels good to get things done.

My whole philosophy is life gets to feel good, so you do what feels good in any mode.

SPARKLE MODE

This is a great time for manifestation because it’s so high vibe. In the morning, I write down what I want to call in for the day, for example, ‘Lots of cuddles, dancing, 2 big sales and a new great opportunity.’

The Sparkly Fairy is Head of People and Culture. She makes sure that everyone feels connected and is okay and is getting along.

I don’t work on Sparkle nights. That’s my rule.  For me, it’s time for love. For a movie night. It’s an opportunity to involve and care of family.

Sometimes it’s about getting your hair or nails done. Anything to feel good.

Collaborations and networking are great in sparkle.

 

Carlie Maree has a seasonal planner that allows you to track your Soul Modes.

She also has merchandise so you signal to your friends which mode you are in.

Carlie is a mentor for the MAD (Make a Difference) women who want to do their work in the world.

Follow her on the socials and head to her website for more information.

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